Support Systems
About a year ago, maybe a bit more, I popped an e-mail to three of my closest women friends, who hadn’t met each other, and asked them if they wanted to get together once a month to share celebrations and provide support for the various challenges we were facing.
I didn’t think much of it; just that it might be a helpful thing to hear an outside perspective on things that might feel overwhelming if you think on them too much.
In the past year, two of us have left jobs that were stifling despite intense reservations/excuse-making only to find MUCH better jobs almost immediately; one of us finally left a relationship that was incredibly unhealthy for her. I’ve inadvertantly managed to connect one friend who was just starting to deal with chronic pain with another friend (in the same group) who has been dealing with it for years.
I myself have brought my business to an entirely different level, while not only maintaining but improving my physical and emotional health - something I wasn’t able to do a year ago. I’ve gotten help and support with my business, advice on my sales process from an expert at client management, and I’ve lost 26 pounds and counting.
None of this, I’m convinced, would have happened as quickly or as well if we hadn’t been there, month after month, talking through our lives and sharing our unique perspectives. Every time I start to feel a bit crazy, a bit like I Can’t Do This, these women remind me that yes, I can - and in fact, I’ve already done it several times.
I don’t have time to say it often enough, but I’m truly grateful for the perspective and support these women have brought into my lives. And to anyone reading this, I highly recommend starting one yourselves. It’s amazing what can happen when people just get together and chat.



